The are a lot of theories of thought around finding the right mate and what attracts us to a partner. Some suggest that when meeting a partner, its natural to be intrigued and attracted to their looks, success, charm or humor. But do these expectations hold us back from finding the right one? Ty Tashiro, a psychologist specializing in romantic relationships, explores certain attractions to the mates we choose. In his book, The Science of Happily Ever After, Tashiro explains “almost 9 in 10 Americans believe they have a soul mate, but only 3 in 10 find healthy relationships that do not end in divorce, separation or chronic unhappiness.” His findings found that our expectations is the leading cause to unhappy relationships.